TOXIC | RELATIONSHIPS

Recently, Marissa Lace made a video (here) about toxic relationships. While I completely agree with everything she said, there is something I want to add.

Recently, I let go of an eleven year friendship with somebody I thought was going to eventually be my bridesmaid. We both held onto the relationship for a lot longer than was right for either of us.

My relationship with my long time friend wasn’t just toxic because she didn’t have my best interest at heart, but because I didn’t have her best interest at heart either. I held a lot of resentment toward her but never took the time to voice what had hurt me. The relationship was toxic for both of us, so I don’t fault her for it. Our chemistry just simply wasn’t there anymore, and we brought out the worst in each other. I was a negative version of myself while I had her in my life.

My point is, don’t leave your relationships or friendships bitter. The anger will only hold you back for finding the perfect relationship for you. Let go of the toxicity, mourn the loss, and be fluid in finding better relationships.

“…If you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher, and if you are prepared – most of all – to face, and forgive, some very difficult realities about yourself…then truth will not be withheld from you.”

Elizabeth Gilbert

Thanks for reading, and find Marissa’s YouTube here.

If you’ve ever had a toxic relationship (friendship, etc), feel free to share,

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8 responses to “TOXIC | RELATIONSHIPS

  1. Couldn’t agree more. I’ve been there and I know how hard cutting ties can be. I find it so hard to put my freedom before other people’s disappointment but I know how important it is to do that! Lovely post 🙂

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  2. I’m having a similar experience with a long time friendship. One I have kept since high school, and throughout college despite constant problems between us. I love how you point out that you both didn’t have each others best interest at heart. It really isn’t one sided, although it can certainly feel that way at times. I knew it was time to let go for a long time, but didn’t want to admit it. I had forced myself to try and maintain this friendship that felt so unnatural. People talk a lot about breaking up with boyfriends and girlfriends. But, no one really prepares you to break up with a friend. This is spot on, and thank you for showing me that others go through it too!

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    • Thanks for reading girl! It was really hard to let go of and we spent a few years hanging onto something that had already passed! I put a lot of blame on her but I think taking accountability for my actions not only set me free from the friendship, but set me free from some of my not-so-great traits too. If you haven’t already let it go, you might find yourself feeling lighter when you do.

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