Best Halloween/Autumnal Flicks

Hello lovelies,

I am curled up on my couch with a cup of chai tea, my pumpkin candle lit, and my heated blanket on. Fall has officially hit in Canada and I am cozy as can be…with my little movie schedule leading up until Halloween.

I can’t be the only Canadian 90’s gal that fondly remembers the both the kid-friendly Halloween flicks and the bone-chilling, 80’s-90’s horror films that lit up my entire October attitude. So here we go with a mix of the nostalgic family movies, all the way up a couple adult horrors that will really remind you that it’s not summer anymore (kind of a horror in itself).

  1. Halloweentown – please PLEASE tell me that you remember the adventures of sweet little Marnie and her kookie (AKA batshit crazy) witch grandmother (AKA DEBBIE REYNOLDS – PREACH)! Ahhh this is a classic. If you’re going to watch anything this fall, make it Halloweentown (BONUS: it’s ultra kid friendly and BRILLIANT).
  2. Hocus Pocus – okay this just speaks for itself. Watching Sarah Jessica Parker go boy crazy as a witch is just too good (even though I’m still a die-hard for watching her go boy-crazy in a pink tu-tu alongside Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda).
  3. Halloween – Michael Myers. Halloween night on 1963. Inability to sleep for weeks. SIGN. ME. UP.
  4. Friday the 13th – Okay this is just a given following Halloween. You have to really dive in to the best slasher films before 2000.
  5. Scream – In the way of horror movies, I see this a classic. So cheesy. So scary. With a cameo of young Drew Barrymore.

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What are your Halloween must-watch movies?

With love and gore,

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8 Perfect Autumn Dates

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The leaves are changing, and the days are filling with that crisp fall air. As I kiss goodbye my perfect summer, I’m getting ready to embrace the cooler days and pretty colours with one of my favourite people in the whole world. Here’s a list of some of the perfect ways you can spend your fall with your significant other, friends or just you:

  1. Pumpkin patch! Get lost in a sea of orange and children’s smiling faces.
  2. A leisurely walk through the forest. Share stories about the wild things you saw on your weekly trip to Walmart whilst hearing your feet crunch on leaves.
  3. Raking – hear me out here. In a desperate attempt to make housework sound sexy, it really could be a nice way to spend a Sunday afternoon.
  4. Corn maze. Aren’t we actually all just children in an adult world? Besides, doesn’t it sound romantic to get lost in a literal maze of corn, eventually to only find yourself amongst a group of teenagers smoking a doobie?
  5. Haunted house. Holding hands while a sadistic masked man jumps out of the darkness (I do not recommend doing this one alone).
  6. Pumpkin carving. Please be careful, there is nothing sexy about an ER visit.
  7. Shop your Farmer’s Market. This is a perfect chilly Sunday idea. Overpriced apples, yes…but priceless memories.
  8. Just. Snuggle. Up. Bath and Body Works LEAVES candle highly suggested. Bonus points if you have a fireplace. Cardigan, CHECK. Cozy socks, CHECK. Let’s. Get. It. On.

 

Have a safe and lovely fall, to all of my singles and my not-so-singles. I hope you all enjoy the season regardless of where you are in the world.

Sending my love to you always,

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Millennials and Dating

My girlfriend sent me an article about why our generation is failing at dating today. The article discussed technology, ghosting and disconnectedness. She especially related to it because of her recently ended relationship.

This article got me thinking: are Millennial’s “bad” at dating, due to our weakness at connecting on a deeper level? Or, are we simply a generation that refuses to settle, due to our independence, heightening access to the world, and wild imaginations (constantly dreaming of bigger goals, successes, and passions – always chasing the next high).

Fifty years ago, the norm was a stable marriage, happy children, and a white picket fence. That stability and “American Dream” is what the bulk of society chased. As the years wore on, we gained access to education, knowledge, power, equality, technology and the world as a whole. With this, the standard changed, or in some ways, abolished completely. Finally (and in my opinion, thankfully), individuality become accepted, and sometimes, celebrated.

Millennials found comfort in being alone. Perhaps, to some extent, we are never alone with our Instagram accounts and Netflix, but our bedrooms have become quiet and our beds have become empty. We no longer seek to fulfill the standard society laid out for us. Instead, we welcome adventure, and the world has become smaller, so men won’t chase the neighbour simply because the cease to believe a better fit might be out there.

The philosophies and social norms have changed with the generations. This may have made dating more “difficult” than the courting and and the 9 PM curfews. However, as scary as terms like “ghosting” and “bread crumbing” may be, if we are a generation that has learned to not settle for anything but extraordinary love, than did we really lose? Furthermore, if we are a generation who has learned to not only welcome, but accept independence, self-sufficiency, and on some nights (when the silence creeps in) even loneliness, then are we actually doing an injustice to dating? Or are we simply seeking justice for ourselves.

Thanks for reading, xx

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June 2017 PLAYLIST

Hey lovelies,

I hope your June is going well so far! In Alberta (Canada), it’s finally lush and green, with the addition of a few incredible thunderstorms. I have been enjoying the weather – that won’t last long enough hear – alongside some music I would love to share with you!

What have been your summer ’17 anthems so far?

Sending my positive energy your way xo.

Light and love,

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8 Lessons From My Single Year

Hi lovelies,

This month (May 28, to be exact) marks one year since I moved out of the house I purchased with the man I thought I would end up marrying. A year ago, I was laying in bed next to his sleeping body wondering “how the hell do I get out of here?”. How was I supposed to leave? He may have been distant, but he had good intentions. He may have not provided for me emotionally, but he was not a bad person. I had actively built that life with him, and then I was searching for a way to leave it.

I have been gone for one year, now settled comfortably in my own (quiet) home, and here’s a little that I’ve learned:

  • Silence can be music. An empty schedule can be the most fulfilling plans. Freedom and alone time does not have to equate to loneliness.
  • Nothing is permanent. This is both the scariest and the most comforting thing I’ve learned over the last year. This point has allowed me to appreciate connections, pain, relationships and happiness more. Everything is fleeting.
  • The little things really aren’t worth stressing about – the bitchy girl at work, the bill that comes out next Tuesday, the 2 AM date that left you crawling out of a guys bed. None of this matters – you can chose to embrace it or let it hinder you. Make it a story to share, roll with the punches, and breathe.
  • Being single allows you to completely build your life the way YOU want too. There is no compromise, there is room for selfishness. You want to move to another city? Do it. You want to get a sleeve tattoo? Do it. You want to go to a bar in a brunette wig and introduce yourself as “Katie”? Do it.
  • The best relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself. Nurture that relationship first. Love that woman first.
  • Be unapologetically yourself. I spent so much time bending the basis of who I am as a person to please people. BE YOU. The right person will love you for it.
  • Appreciate genuine connections but know that they don’t need to mean forever. You are 50% of those connections – be comfortable, be carefree, be sincere and they will come by more frequently.
  • The most unsuspecting moments will become some of the most profound memories. That first dog-walking date that never produced a relationship, that back-deck conversation on a summer night…those will stick with you.
  • Become the woman you dreamt off – independent, carefree, confident.

The most dangerous thing about me is that I am my favourite company. You will have to fight me for me. – OfYesterYear

READ OF THE MONTH

Hi lovelies,

After the demise of my live-in “forever” relationship, I became lost and was looking for answers. I was gifted a book, written by Gabrielle Bernstein, called The Universe Has Your Back. Desperate for clarity, I cracked it open, and flowed through the easy-to-read brook.

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For those reading this that need a sense of clarity, peace, or understanding, I urge you to pick this up. I do not say this lightly, but this book changed my life. It touches on meditation, control, honouring your feelings, and the plan the universe has for you. Not necessarily always a “spirit junkie” myself, Bernstein spoke to me in a language I could understand, and through her writing, she made me feel cradled by the Universe during my own difficult time.

I have implemented Bernstein’s meditations and thoughts into my everyday life. I have allowed myself to release my control to the Universe, in belief that there is a plan greater than the one that I have for myself. This, in itself, has given me a peace of mind. I have been able to set free my anxiety, and in turn, liberate myself.

I leave with you a few of my favourite quotes by Gabrielle Bernstein:

  • “In every situation, you will have two choices: will you learn through love or will you learn from fear?”
  • “Practice saying this prayer before every encounter that triggers the shadows from your past, ‘I want to see this person for the first time'”
  • “You have the power to create the world you want to see”
  • “The key to serenity is trusting that the universe has your back”

Thanks for reading loves! What are your favourite books lately?

Speak to you soon xx,

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Inauguration and Equality

“Remember, we are not afraid, that we are not alone, that we will not fall back down, that there is power in our unity and no opposing force stands a chance in the faith of our true solidarity.”

Madonna

 

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I am a woman. A proud, resilient, outspoken, powerful woman. Sharing my womanhood with billions of other incredible, strong, brave women. More so, I am a HUMAN – sharing my humanhood with billions of other talented, kind, wonderful HUMANS – of all races, religions, and sexualities. I am proud to share pieces of me with pieces of other people that lead with kindness and love. I am Canadian, and yet, I feel the profound pain that the American’s are feeling at this difficult time.

The Inauguration occurred two days ago – within it, undertones of hatred, inequality and fear. The progress we have made concerning basic human rights has been spat on by a man given the power to run a country. We have hit a wave of uncertainty with our minority  groups facing roadblocks that should have been destroyed centuries ago.

I identify as a feminist, and more so, I identify as a HUMANIST. I identify as an individual that believes in protecting all of ours rights, and allowing all of us the freedom to live a whole, happy, brilliant life. I am a woman who will offer you respect, kindness and love regardless of your gender, race, religion or sexuality. I promise to seek your heart. I promise to advocate for your innate human rights. I promise to stand with you in any time of need.

I am not defined by my monthly cycle, or the weight my chest bares. I am not defined by my “pussy”, or the wage gap between myself and my male counterparts. I am defined by the turmoil I have faced and how I overcame it. I am defined by the lessons of my powerful mother, and other likeminded women. I am defined by my capacity to love humanity equally. I am defined by my brain, by my spoken word, by the qualities I possess. I am a woman, and I am proud to be a woman. However, I am significantly more than the shackles and limits put on what “womanhood” can entail – as are all of you.

Today, and everyday, I stand with America. I stand with my fellow women. I stand with every skin tone under the rainbow. I stand with any book that leads your religion. I stand the entire LGBTQ community. I stand with every individual who can lead with love.

Love always, from the bottom of my heart,

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MY SINGLE LADIES

I’m new to this group. I was always perpetually in a relationship, and just recently moved out of my beautiful home with my “forever” love. Here I am, single…and genuinely enjoying it.

I have recognized so many women resenting their single status. It’s as if it’s a plague or a curse. Here I am, to shed some light on single life…and all the beautiful things it has to offer.

  • The silence in your home to tackle all of the chores that you want to tackle
  • The. Entire. Bed. To. Yourself. (So much sprawling = so much happiness)
  • Having too many martini’s and shamelessly kissing that beautiful Scottish man at the bar
  • Choosing your own series on Netflix
  • Dating has taught me so much about myself. Really think when somebody asks you pertinent questions like: “What trait matters most to you?” and “Where do you want to be in five years?” You might surprise yourself with the answers you offer.

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  • You will never have filthy beard shavings scattered in your sink.
  • You will never have to put up with the worlds most annoying argument over car music.
  • No in-laws
  • You can wear those comfortable period panties all month long.
  • There are no arguments, there is no rollercoaster, there is no blowup of text messages over a meaningless fight.

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  • Lastly, and most importantly – the freedom to chose any life you want to live at every single moment of your life

The man will come ladies – the wonderful, prince charming-esque man who will fulfill your wildest dreams and will give you the most extraordinary love that life has to offer. Until then, enjoy the life in front of you…kiss the Scottish man and hog the bed and love your single status. It is not a curse, it is a privilege to have the opportunity to learn who you are and grow into the woman you were made to be.

What is the best part of your single life?

Sweet dreams, my loves,

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THE LITTLE THINGS

Hey loves,

I have officially hit the January blues. All of the joyous Christmas festivities are over, and as a Canadian, I am looking towards another 3 months of dreaded, snowy, miserable winter. January blues is a reoccurring thing for me every year, missing the festive season and counting down the moments until I can put my short shorts on for the first time of the year.

Due to this awful feeling, I’ve decided to compose a list of all the little things in life that make me truly, genuinely happy. I figured it would be worth the share to lift any of your spirits who are experiencing the same down feeling as I am.

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  1. Which leads me to my first point – the first time of the season that I slip into those denim short shorts and suddenly feel FREE.
  2. Waking up and realizing you have 3 more hours to sleep before the alarm goes off.
  3. Sore muscles the day after a good workout. They are just telling me “you worked me good, you’re on the right path!”
  4. The green hue from the distance that the trees get in the spring when the buds are just starting to pop up.
  5. Getting a whiff of your favourite perfume throughout the day reminding you that you smell great
  6. Opening a hot, fresh box of delivered cheese pizza after a 45 minute wait
  7. A quiet Saturday night after a hot bath, with countless hours to look forward to of Netflix, silence and alone time
  8. The highly anticipated first kiss that sends butterflies down to your very core
  9. That “ah ha” moment when learning new information when everything just clicks
  10. The birds chirping on a summer morning
  11. The scent of freshly mowed lawn
  12. When you get an unexpected flower delivery
  13. Remembering a fond memory so vividly that it feels like a warm hug
  14. Just happening to see strangers do something so beautiful that it makes you smile – maybe a mother kissing her newborn baby, or an elderly couple holding hands sitting on a park bench
  15. First stepping into the hot bath
  16. As women, we pick ourselves apart. We are our own worst enemies. However, those moments where I offer myself complete acceptance – I look in the mirror and can think “you look nice today, and I like your heart”. The moments where I can see myself offering love and friendship to myself, those are good days.
  17. Running past your breaking point, and that feeling of accomplishment after.
  18. Getting home from a salon appointment and appreciating your new ‘do.
  19. Lighting a brilliant smelling candle for the first time.
  20. Recognizing your yoga poses are improving.
  21. Having your pup cuddle up on your lap and look at you with loving eyes.
  22. That little noise a pop bottle makes when you crack the seal.
  23. Getting into bed after a few drinks and feeling as though there is literally nothing that could ever beat the feeling of your head on the mattress.
  24. Making a new friend.
  25. Deep, genuinely happy, belly laughs.

What are some things that make you the happiest version of yourself?

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CHRISTMAS GIFTS | For him

Hi lovelies,

To follow up from my Christmas Gifts For Her post last week, I wanted to make a list of gifts to buy the men in your life.

Thanks for reading,

What did you buy the men in your life this year?

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